You’re just too much!
I was talking to a lady the other day who was worried her energy levels were “too much” at times for the people she worked with, and she didn’t know quite what to do about it.
My question to her was “You’re too much compared to whom?”
Compared to someone who’s had no sleep for three weeks?
Compared to the Dalai Lama?
Compared to the manager at your local Waitrose?
Compared to a pair of 13-year-old girls stuck in a lift with Justin Beiber after two cans of Red Bull and a packet of Haribo?
Here’s the thing - we all have different energy levels, and we have different ways of expressing ourselves.
Some people will love our energy levels and some people won't.
Some people will love us on one day and want to slap us on another, depending on what’s going on in their head that day.
When I first started coaching, I used to feel as if I was lacking something because my style was different to the high-energy coaches out there. I thought I wasn’t bringing enough to the table in terms of getting people fired up.
It wasn’t long before someone said to me they liked my calmer style - they didn’t always need to be pumped up - a lot of the time they needed to calm down in order to think straight.
That being said, I do get times when I feel over-exuberant, and when I do I just go with it!
It doesn't matter how you turn up every day, you’ll never please everyone so you might as well please yourself.
Some people will think you’re over the top and some people will wish you looked a bit more enthusiastic.
It’s not your job or even within your power to control their reactions to you, so don’t trouble yourself with the task.
As the great saying goes - other people’s opinions of you are none of your business.
That being said, if you aren’t happy with your own energy levels then you can definitely do something about it!
If you’re feeling uncomfortably frenetic, then you might decide to dial down the caffeine, organise your work day so you aren’t flitting from one thing to the next without completing things, and do some regular meditation or deep breathing.
If you’re always feeling sluggish then you could take more regular exercise, cut down on junk food and booze for a while, or declutter your brain because you could be weighed down with your thoughts.
If you need help with stuff like this, then being coached is an excellent way to explore the options - if you want to get helpful coaching insights every weekday then sign up to my FREE daily emails - the link’s here: https://venture-coaching.com/daily-emails/
But as a general rule of thumb, decide to turn up as yourself every day, not the person you think everyone else wants, because that mythical creature doesn't exist!